Month: June 2017

Towards a Better Eclectic Practice (Part I): Art vs. Evidence

Towards a Better Eclectic Practice (Part I): Art vs. Evidence

It has always puzzled me when I hear of new research that asserts again, that a manualized or evidenced-based treatment model produces better outcomes than an eclectic practice. I, like many if not all who are actually providing therapy find myself thinking, how could this possibly be true?

There are so many variables constantly impacting the therapeutic relationship, that defy being put in a box. Of course this includes the tricky variable of time and thus from one second to the next- everything constantly changes. How could one’s approach not be responsively flexible and eclectic?

For example:

If for the sake of my treatment modality (i.e. focusing only on the present and the immediate future when doing behavioral therapy), I steer someone away from disclosing details of past sexual abuse that are weighing on them and that they have never revealed to anyone, what kind of therapist am I? “Sorry, we can’t talk about that till session #6.”, is probably not going to go over very well. 

In the same vein, how damaging to this person would it be if upon such disclosure, I refer the person to someone who does that type of work or redirect them towards preparing for doing that work at a later date?   

What are they trying to prove? 

Ok, so funding. But let’s not sell our souls. Research that compares manualized or evidenced-based treatment approaches to eclectic approaches, misses the point and is damaging. Logic alone implies that our treatment approaches need to be as eclectic as the humans who seek us out.

Furthermore, how can one compare something that is well-defined to something that is not? Research that compares manualized or evidenced-based treatment approaches to eclectic approaches only muddies the water and leads us further from our goal: to provide effective therapy.

This problem is compounded by the likely scenario that the vast majority of people who are truly passionate about doing therapy, are doing actual therapy- not research. And with the stigma still connected to mental healthcare, our larger society has not historically cared about conducting such research. The system (of education, of government, healthcare system, etc…) is a mess.

In fairness to the few researchers out there, this is also difficult stuff to study. But we therapists know: research should focus more directly on developing evidence-based, eclectic models. Training should focus on helping therapists to learn and implement a combination of evidence-based models that in concert, produce desired outcomes.

This plays out poorly…

Since by and large this is not the case, therapists are left to just wing it. Often, this is more kindly referred to as looking at providing therapy as an art. So strengths-based! However the trouble is that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Research shows that eclectic practice is not very effective because we therapists, in general way over-estimate our artistic abilities.

It’s understandable. Providing therapy is dynamic and challenging. We therapists are called to think in ways that defy the normal thought process. Using one’s brain and even the physical body in session in this way is more taxing than other, even highly stressful forms of work. This is why most organizations give starting therapists 4 weeks of paid vacation. Avoiding burnout is not even really realistic. Instead we must plan for it, in order to minimize its impact.

Add systemic and economic issues that result in poor training and lack of support and what kind of art is one producing? The good enough kind. And sometimes, (gasp!)… the bad kind. But our clients don’t just need protection from harm- they need more than good enough.

What do people do with good enough art? They throw it away, they sell it in a yard sale, they hang that impersonal piece on their wall in college and grow to hate it. Like the Ansel Adams print we’ve had on our wall since my husband’s bachelor days. I’ve been planning to donate that thing to the Good Will for years, but for now it’s filling a spot on our wall while we look for a piece of real art that we can now afford and that will mean something to us.

Good enough therapy is described to me way too often when a person comes to see me for the first time. “Tell me about your past experiences with therapy” is so often met with the person relaying that the therapist was very good at listening, but didn’t talk very much. So many explain that they liked the therapist, but that they didn’t really get a lot out of it. Frequently even further: I really wanted help, but it didn’t work and I was so frustrated that I stopped going. I’ve been struggling ever since. Things have gotten so bad, though- I’m willing to try again. The Ansel Adams analogy seems crass.

Let’s get on a better track.

Basic social work values dictate that we therapists must do an ongoing self-critique… always. Clients, supervisors and colleagues should be an active part of this process. This will consistently prompt us to seek out current research and training. In this vein, I’ve sought to hone my art through developing an evidence-based, eclectic practice.

It’s important that when the work is hard or overwhelming, one does not fall to good enough and rely on active listening and relationship building only. After-all, we know that the greatest potential for growth (for client and therapist!) is actually at these times. We need to prioritize taking good care of ourselves and through toiling– seek to grow.

I have been fortunate in my career to have had professors, supervisors, mentors, and most of all clients who have taught me how to accomplish these goals.

I’ve developed a dynamic, eclectic, evidence-based practice that my clients report (and with a critical eye, I observe) to be highly effective. This practice will continue to grow and change, as it should in response to an ever-changing, growing person and world. Does this mean that it cannot be measured? That it is ultimately just my own art? No. It is made up of principles that guide my work, as well as evidence-based strategies that I find essential for present day therapeutic delivery.

It is a rare talent, that doesn’t need art lessons. Even if you are a highly talented therapist – the nature of the work requires ongoing, well-informed learning and skill development.

In this series of posts, I will share with you the principles that guide my work, and discuss the evidence-based approaches that I use.

What does your practice look like? Call it art, call it eclectic practice, but let’s make it better. We need to first help ourselves and each other, in order to provide more meaningful and effective help to our clients.  

 

Bottom Line:

-We need to work together to develop and implement evidence-based, eclectic models for treatment.

-We need to address systemic and economic contributors that get in the way of therapists learning and consistently implementing evidence-based approaches.

-Read this series of posts to learn about my eclectic treatment model that is based on evidence-based approaches.

-Please contribute to the discussion by posting your thoughts and what approaches have been helpful for your clients.

 

Helpful mantras:

-Self-care always.

-Self-critique always.

-My artist’s tools are evidence-based.

 

 

Alisa Reed, LCSW-R

 

 

 

How to Not Mess Up Your Kids (Part I): CBT for Parenting

How to Not Mess Up Your Kids (Part I): CBT for Parenting

One of the most common topics that people want to discuss in therapy is parenting. In helping people process their thoughts and feelings in this realm, they are usually able to boil things down to one, what we call in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), hot thought: Am I messing up my kid(s)? What most of us never consider, but wherein lies an infinite and unknowable potential, is a somewhat opposite thought: What if we all firmly knew how to not mess up our kids? This is not only possible, it’s simpler than one may think.

Let’s start where we are at:

At the risk of oversimplifying, thinking the thought, Am I messing up my kids? causes brain chemistry changes that produce feelings. These feelings are stressful- typically feelings of worry or anxiety. In some circumstances they can even rise to the level of panic. But stressful feelings, like worry, are not inherently bad.

If stress motivates you to do something productive, for example to study for a test, this is good stress or what we call in CBT, eu-stress. However, if stress rises past a healthy, motivational, eu-stress level towards overwhelming- one needs to bring it back down. But how?

You may think you’ve already got this cracked- replace negative thoughts that are causing the rise in stress with positive alternative thoughts. If so, you’re on the right track, but it’s a little more complicated than that.

In CBT, we refer to negative thoughts like these as negative automatic thoughts.  Oh no, automatic!? Maybe so. Try replacing negative thoughts with positive alternative thoughts and see what happens. Is this easy for you and does it resolve the issue? If so, great! If not, we need to get to the root of these thoughts- where are they coming from?

It all boils down to our beliefs…

Automatic thoughts stem from beliefs that we have about ourselves and the world. In CBT we call them core beliefs. What are your core beliefs about your parenting? What are your core beliefs about yourself? How does it feel to confront these beliefs?

When belief systems are negative, getting to the root and considering our core beliefs can be a difficult experience. Sometimes we employ defense mechanisms like denial or avoidance to seemingly protect us from negative and pain inducing core beliefs (i.e. I am a bad parent).

If we don’t have a replacement coping mechanism we feel exposed, hurt, even shame and may attempt to employ yet another defense mechanism to cope. Instead, stick with me: examine your belief(s) and consider working through the feelings that come up. Overlap your thoughts with your feelings- journal about it, talk with a friend, talk with a licensed therapist! Let yourself feel, but while pushing yourself to think things through at the same time. It’s here that you will develop insight and growth and resolve difficult feelings. In time, the goal is to replace negative core beliefs with positive ones that you can really get behind- not just intellectually, but emotionally too.

To get you started:

One of the most common beliefs at the root of this issue is, I don’t know how to be a parent. It’s to the point of cliché- kids don’t come with an instruction manual! But let’s examine the belief. Is it true? What is your level of knowledge about parenting, child development, infant mental health?

Chances are, unless you are an expert in these areas I’m starting to stress you out right now! But instead of feeling ashamed or overwhelmed, keep things at a eu-stress level. Let this motivate you to consider your beliefs, and to adjust if needed.

Like the vast majority of us, you really may be lacking some important information about parenting. You also may have your own painful experiences of being parented that get in your way. As well, negative messages from the media about how to value one’s self, constantly, at least subconsciously feed into our core beliefs.

In these circumstances, working through and resolving grief and loss related to difficult early experiences, thinking critically about cultural messages, getting information, and developing and practicing new skills might be the adjustments needed in order to replace negative core beliefs with positive ones.

In the end, the goal is to firmly believe: I am confident and competent in my role as a parent.

Were you hoping I was going to let you off the hook more easily? There’s a lot of stuff out there, whether written online or spoken amongst friends, family, or even therapist and client that appears on the surface to do just that. A flippant, …give yourself a break, parenting is hard! They don’t come with an instruction manual… may cause momentary relief and ring true to you. Unfortunately, however you still likely have these pesky negative core beliefs at work (i.e. I don’t know what I’m doing!!!). They will continue to trip you up.

This is not wrong or unhealthy. It’s simply the process of being pointed towards growth. The goal of this post is to help you rise to the challenge- the greatest challenge many of us will ever face- in a healthy way! The first step is to confront our belief systems and to develop a healthy relationship with our beliefs and thoughts about our parenting, as described above.

To illustrate and for comparison:

In working on resolving a fear of snakes- we are not going to attempt to adjust our belief system towards believing that snakes are safe. Snakes can be dangerous! As with parenting: we have brought forth another human into this world, one that requires we meet their needs as primary caregiver(s). If we do not have confidence and competence as parents, this can pose an actual danger to that little being that we love more than we could ever have imagined. We are never going to convince ourselves otherwise, nor should we.

Instead, to have a healthy belief system and relationship with our thoughts about snakes, parenting, or whatever the issue is- makes more sense.

Next, with the snake example- if you live where snakes are common, a very important first step in order to confront and firm up one’s belief system could be to face it head on and learn about snakes and safety around snakes. This is where the comparison ends, however, as learning about snakes is vastly easier than learning about parenting.

Firm up a belief system:

There is a lot of parenting advice out there and conflicting research and opinions on just about every part of it. I will tell you some things that we know for sure, that also happen to be the most important stuff. In your (new!) quest for having a healthy relationship with your beliefs and thoughts about your parenting, this information can form a base of knowledge that your newfound positive and accurate belief system and resulting confidence and competence – come from.

We should get an instruction manual! and it should come in the form of a mandatory high school class on attachment.

Webster’s defines attachment as “…an enduring emotional bond that develops between an infant or toddler and primary caregiver, a strong bond being vital for the child’s normal behavioral and social development.”. Important stuff! In fact, attachment theory has informed all of my over 10,000 hours of doing professional therapy, with all ages.

While most of us didn’t get this education, at least we can seek this knowledge now. Our negative core belief about our parenting- that we don’t know what we’re doing- is probably at least partially true. Let’s change that, by making it less so.

This series of posts will provide an overview of how to form a healthy, secure attachment with a child. It is this relationship that forms the safe base from which a child develops a sense of self and the ability to regulate their thoughts and feelings. Establishing and maintaining a secure, healthy attachment ensures that we don’t mess up our kids. Everything flows from there. It really is that simple.

Reduce information overload that ends up actually taking us further from our goal- read this series of posts, and read the book of “insert child’s name here”. Imagine if we all did attachment well? What complex problems of the world would fall by the wayside?

I’ve seen first-hand, consistently, doing strengths-based therapy, that when one focuses on and builds up strengths even the most complicated problems fade away. If we all had a positive sense of self and the ability to regulate our thoughts and feelings, what would the world be? What will the next great revolution be? Perhaps the seeds lie here.

Bottom line:

Confront your beliefs about your parenting abilities.

Establish positive core beliefs about your parenting that are based on accurate information and that you can get behind, both emotionally and intellectually, in order to rise to the challenge!

Work towards establishing and maintaining a healthy, secure attachment with your child.

Helpful mantras:

-Eu-stress only!

-All we need is healthy attachment.

 

 

References:

Attachment. (n.d.). Retrieved June 20, 2017, from https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/attachment