How to Find the Right Therapist
First and foremost: congratulations! In therapist-speak, you have moved from the pre-contemplative stage of change to the contemplative stage of change and are making progress towards your goals already! Seriously though… good for you. It takes courage to look for and ask for help and this is an excellent first step. Secondly, take heart: the process of finding a therapist can be arduous and tricky at best, not to mention any lingering reservations you may have about the whole thing.
I hope to provide you with some information that can make it easier and help you get to the next step- whatever that may be for you! It can be as easy as picking up the phone, but sometimes the long can be the short. Putting in a little time to research and prepare could save you time, money, and opportunity. It’s complicated and there is misinformation out there. I’ll give you the inside scoop!
Where to start and a word about word of mouth:
Surprise! The yellow pages are not the place to look anymore! With the exception of word of mouth, the internet is your best friend here. Word of mouth can be extremely valuable, but needs to be taken with a grain of salt.
It can be tricky to try to assess how helpful and in line with what you are looking for, a word of mouth recommendation is. Consider a person lingering in therapy for many years who loves their therapist, but for who those close to the person continue to worry about their loved one’s high level of depressive symptoms. That would probably be a word of mouth recommendation that you don’t want to take!
Recommendations from primary care doctors and other therapists can be safer, however I myself actually once inadvertently recommended a terrible therapist to my best friend! You need to feel things out. And reach out, online and/or directly.
When you do find a good therapist, they may have a long wait list. Contact them anyway and ask who they recommend.
The internet however, can be overwhelming. Rather than wade through random websites, the easiest way to narrow your search is to use a website called psychologytoday.com. While not every therapist uses psychologytoday.com, it is widely used because of the low cost and ease of connecting with potential clients.
Front and center, in the middle of the homepage is a search field to enter your zip code. Entering your zip generates a list of nearby therapists. You can use the qualifiers on the left to further narrow your search, but use this feature with care. For example, if it is a priority to use your insurance, definitely select your company, however if you start selecting from the list of “issues” presented, you may weed out some therapists that would be a good fit.
For example, a therapist may not have selected “depression” as one of the top 3 issues that they work with, because they assume that all therapists are well versed in treating depressive symptoms and they have chosen to highlight other areas that they may have advanced training in and that are more specialized. They are likely more than qualified and open to referrals for people with depressive symptoms and should not be counted out.
Experiment with it, though and start reading some pages. The best part of this website is that you can read a bit about each therapist before emailing or calling them, including what they want you to know about their practice up front.
What about insurance?
Should you want to use insurance to pay for your therapy, calling your insurance company to ask for a list of providers that participate with your insurance is also a possible starting point.
Regardless, you will need to call your insurance company to verify that the provider you find participates with them and to determine your benefit information. Click here for a printable list of questions to ask your insurance company before your first appointment.
You can also google any relevant phrases like “treatment for depression” and your area code. Many therapists register on google with a list of relevant search terms that link to their contact information and website if they have one.
Keep in mind, though: having a fancy website can give you information, but does not necessarily correlate with the therapists’ level of skill. I for one have never had a website for my practice because I’ve never seen a need for one.
Understanding your options:
There is a myriad of different types of professionals who provide talk-therapy, also referred to as psychotherapy. Licensing differs from state to state, which means that some professionals are more common in some places than others and in some places, some professions have little to no representation.
I’ll put it out there up front: I’m going to give a very anecdotal, biased, non-scientific, but very finger on the pulse level of information regarding who is doing therapy and how to understand your options. I will also preface my thoughts by stating that while research has shown no correlation between outcomes in therapy and profession of therapist, it’s good to be informed of your choices.
The bad news first; one type of therapist to be careful about:
More education and authority is not always better. A Psychiatrist is a medical doctor who has specialized in psychiatry. They are qualified to provide therapy and to prescribe medication, which sets them apart from other professions.
In watching any amount of television one could surmise that medication easily and best treats any mental health concern. At the same time, in most areas there is a shortage of Psychiatrists, especially Child and Adolescent Psychiatrists, and not surprisingly a high need for prescribers. **Warning bells going off!**
However, a competent and ethical Psychiatrist will tell you that therapy is the first line of treatment for almost all issues that bring people to seek help. Ask about CBT. THEY should explain that Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is the gold standard for the vast majority of people seeking treatment.
I am not just someone with an axe to grind with some wacky Psychiatrist(s), although there may be some of those in the back of my closet somewhere… axes, not Psychiatrists!!!! But I digress. The Adolescent Psychiatrist who gave the most recent psychopharmacology training that I attended (2016) stated that with the exception of ADHD (which I take issue with, but that’s beyond the scope of this post), he will not prescribe to people who have not first tried talk-therapy for a minimum of 3 months.
He was extremely cautionary about people even referring clients to Psychiatrists at all, and remember this is coming from an actual Psychiatrist! He recommended Psychiatric Nurse Practitioners when medication is needed (a widely held position of those working in this field).
Shhh, what’s that noise? Did I just hear a Psychiatrist sharpening an axe somewhere? Don’t’ get me wrong, there are some great Psychiatrists out there. Unfortunately however, the field of psychiatry has shifted almost 100% away from providing therapy and towards prescribing medication. Of course, there are circumstances when medication is necessary and important. Research consistently shows though, that the right type of talk therapy produces better outcomes for the vast majority of people.
Furthermore, in my own experience, over the years there have been very few people that I have needed to refer for a psychiatric evaluation at all. I could count on one hand the number that I have needed to refer immediately.
Moving on…
Since 2004 I have worked for 3 large, non-profit, mental health/behavioral health organizations in 2 states: Maine and New York. I have also spent the last 8 years building a private practice in New York. In private practice, I’ve come across all types of therapists, but primarily Clinical Social Workers, Psychologists, and Marriage and Family Therapists.
In Maine, though I worked in the field there for over 5 years, I never heard of any Marriage and Family Therapists! Doesn’t mean they don’t exist there, but I never came across one.
What I did hear of in Maine, albeit rarely, were LCPC’s (Licensed Clinical Professional Counselors). I have never come across this term in New York, but I believe Marriage and Family Therapists and Mental Health Counselors may be types of LCPC’s? Not sure.
No wonder there is so much misinformation out there, online and in general regarding who provides what type of therapy and to whom. Even WebMD gets it wrong in their description of therapists who are social workers.
In my experience working with people from all different backgrounds, in all different levels of care, social workers are more widely providing therapy than any other type of clinician. Why is this? It’s impossible to nail that down, but what we do know:
The differences between the types of professionals providing therapy are vast and complicated, but the main difference between social workers and the others is that the field of social work is based on a set of values. These values are service, social justice, dignity and worth of the person, importance of human relationships, integrity, and competence. While of course not every social worker lives up to these values, it is notable that they are at the core of our profession. They are also the values that one should look for in a therapist, regardless of the credentials after their name or their level of education or experience. These are values that lend themselves to good outcomes. It’s no surprise- insurance companies want to pay us (though, not nearly enough!) and clients want to see us.
Bottom line:
When looking for a therapist, ask yourself if the person seems non-judgmental, caring, sensitive, and if they will meet you where you are at. If they are a social worker, bonus! 😊 Ask if they are experienced and trained to do CBT and if it is an integral part of most of their work (it should be!).
Use the internet and those around you, feel things out armed with information, and call your insurance company (if using). Click here for an easily printable list of questions to ask your insurance company before scheduling at appointment.
Hint: If your nerves or procrastination are getting the better of you, a helpful mantra might be “just do it”. You’ll be glad you did.
Alisa Reed, LCSW-R
-The opinions presented in this post are just that: solely opinions of this writer, and not professional recommendations. Statements are to be taken at your own discretion and resulting choices, at your own risk. Please seek the assistance of a licensed therapist of any kind if you would like help understanding any of the ideas presented here.